I have.
I was attacked six times in one month, pride month in fact.

Your lack of real world interaction with bigotry is indicative of one thing only, your privilege.

Women often DON'T share biology. There are women born with a uterus. There are women who have XY chromosomes.
I have female breasts. My hormonal profile is more female than other women my age.
Where are the lines drawn and who draws them? You? Hell no.

I'm a woman. I'm a tall-ish woman. I'm an articulate woman. I'm a loud woman. I'm a gay woman. I'm a creative woman.

And I'm a trans woman.

But that latter does NOT disqualify all the ways in which I am categorised a woman.

You were so careful to not tread on landmines in your piece. Or so you…

Dispatches from TERF Island

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Okay, so I’d intended to do this side series sooner or later. The events of the last few days have forced my hand. Sit back as I give you the lowdown on the movers and shakers on TERF Island who are making life hell for transgender people.

Sajid Javid is a conservative Member of Parliament (capital ‘MEMBER’) who is the UK’s current Secretaryof State for Health. He has oversight of all policy regarding the provision of healthcare here. It’s as simple as that.

Partisanship aside, I don’t think I’d have much trouble showing most people what a reactionary bullshit merchant…

Dispatches from TERF Island

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I don’t travel. The only foreign country I’ve ever visited is Britain’s neighbour France. Twice. In fifty years. I’ve been married to an American for over twenty years. I’ve never visited America.

But I do have a passport. I’d like to use it, but my life has changed beyond all recognition and I need an up-to-date passport.

So this episode of TERF Island Dispatches is all about what a prejudicial shit show official UK documentation is when you’re trans. I’ll be concentrating on passports, but since the guidelines are similar across the board, it’s going to touch other areas.


Let’s get this straight

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A couple of days ago I was attacked in the comments section of an article written by an esteemed colleague on this site. I don't use the word 'attacked' with any degree of hyperbole. My ubiquitous civility to this anonymous commenter was met with unrelenting hostility. I did, finally, call her an idiot. But by that point I was merely stating the obvious.

I was assigned male at birth. So technically my sex is male, although with the changes I've wrought determining even my biological sex would depend on what criteria you used. …

Being a Trans Woman 101

Being transgender means being part of a tiny minority.

Being a trans woman means typically more visible than trans men and many non-binary folk. It can be a little more difficult for us to pass. After all, bras can be padded, but a beard and balding head aren't so easy to fake.

And being part of a tiny minority, one on whom a disproportionate amount of attention is currently being directed, means I often find myself the subject of immense curiosity. Occasionally this is irksome. Sometimes it's a conversation starter.

It's also tiring in its repetition. Because of course the people I meet all have the same questions. And…

Mrs. C Recommends

Audre Lorde's reputation absolutely should precede her. But on the off chance that you live in a particularly deep cave on Pluto, Lorde was a black, lesbian, warrior poet. She grew up in Harlem in the 30s and 40s and through her work espoused many of the central tenets of intersectional feminism long before Kimberlie Crenshaw even coined the term.

Zami (or to give it its full title, Zami: A New Spelling of my Name. A Biomythography) is a semi-fictional autobiography, detailing Lorde’s childhood and early adulthood, along with her first relationships with other women.

Lorde's poetic heart is on…

The Advice Column from Hades

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Hi I’m Abigail Imogen Drake, the bitch with all the answers. Most of them wrong.

This week's question was culled from Quora but it's certainly something I've been asked more than once:

User, Lyvv Cruz asked: Should bad sex be a deal breaker in a serious relationship?

This another of those closed questions that has a simple answer, but of course I'll expand on it.

The simple answer is No.

What the fuck, Abbie?! Don't you like sex?

Don't be mental. I adore fucking. Always have. Now more so than ever.

BUT… The operative word there is 'serious'. For a…

Mrs. Capricious

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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