Ah you refer to 'Ascension'. Some trans people Ascend, yeah. I've been in transition about the same length of time and I still get plenty of dysphoria, but it is more external than internal I find these days. 'He' is becoming more a blurry memory and half the days I'm ok with what I see in the mirror. And I can see that a time will come when being trans is something that hits me infrequently. In the midst of transition it's kinda impossible to miss.

And honestly that's why I write about trans-related stuff cos it matters and it's where I wam right now. But I've also started moving away from that being the focus of my writing.

That we're trans will always be with us. There's no getting away from that ultimately. But we can certainly choose how much it afffects us and we can work towards defining ourselves in ways not related to our transness. That in itself pulls us away from the source of some of our dissonance and pain.

I'm trans, sure, and I'm committed to the fight for our rights and to supporting trans youth through my other work.

But I'm also a poet, a writer of erotica and hard-edged sci-fi. I write about adultery. I read comics. I play games. I sew. I ride motorcycles. And that's just the stuff I DO, not the kind of woman I AM. There are so many richer ways to describe ourselves than sticking with 'trans'.

Hugs, sister.

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Poet. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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