But this is precisely the point, Rori. Far too many cis people will look for ANY excuse to deny our reality, our lived experience.

That such denial is based on simple ignorance is pretty damn sad, because the net result is plain bigotry. There are few words in the English langue that convey how it is to be transgender for those with no direct experience but their lack of understanding doesn't change the obvious fact that the millions of us worldwide who are trans know ourselves better than they do.