Dear Oak.

Hi, I’m Abbie.

I’m a solid gen X-er. A 49 year old trans woman. And yet also baby trans. I’ve been in active transition for 10 months now, but on E for only a little over a month.

Like you, I’m beginning to see glimmers of a day a few years hence when the heavy-lifting is behind me, when attempting to pass isn’t so much an issue. But, also like you, I’m currently buried in the work of learning all the things about my gender that were hidden from me be dint of this birth defect of being AMAB, or being socialised in accordance with the expectations of my biology.

It’s hard, for sure. But if my near half a century on this planet have taught me a thing its that we’re each able to bear far more than we ever imagine ourselves capable of.

And so I heartily echo your sentiments. We will indeed get there. And this world will be a better place by simple virtue of there being two fewer people living a lie.

Here’s to you. Here’s to me. Here’s to all our trans brothers, sisters, and Non-Binary siblings.



Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Poet. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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