Erm...where did I make any assumption about your own experience of sexual violence???
Oh wait, no, that didn't happen. Whereas you emphatically time and again have brought up sexual violence by men as argument against the liberties of trans women.
I agree that disagreement is fine. Except when the disagreement amounts to the removal of anyone's rights.
Womens' rights and trans rights are NOT antithetical. I'm a woman too. How can you not see we have common cause? What part of my life as a woman do you think is free of daily misogyny and systemic prejudice, simply of the basis of my being a woman? Nevermind the added abuses I suffer for being transgender. Abuses to which you are currently adding. I'd much rather be arguing with you against the far greater injustices suffered by women everywhere, whether cis or trans.
You say you don't want to hurt trans people. I've told you you already have. And you offer no word of apology. You pleas of rationality and respect thus ring hollow.