Of course not. I’m flattered.

I hadn’t dated in 28 years. And now, as a newly out trans lesbian I’ve been thrown in at the deep end of extramarital (oh god it’s complex) relationships.

My ex-girlfriend complains that I lucked out in her and I finding one another so soon after I joined Her. She’s just sore cos of having to wade through all the mute, hopeless hopefuls out there for over a year.

You’re beautifully right that the ability to hold a conversation, perhaps especially via these restricted means, is a key indicator of the value a relationship might promise.

A fair example is my wife. We met 23 years ago in a CompuServe chat room. I can chat. So can she. We’re still together. But that’s a story for another time.

Great love and respect


Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.