Loved the piece.
As a trans woman who just turned 50 I can’t tell you how strongly I feel about this. On the one hand I didn’t grow up with the pressure women face over appearance every minute. But on the other that meant that when I did transition I was dumped into the deep end of those expectations with little fanfare. I had thought, while I was presenting as male, that I kinda got it, but it was still a shock to be so immediately yoked to my appearance.
Being trans however has been an asset, ironically. The sheer amount of DGAF energy and sheer full on sass you need to just survive transition means I couldn’t give a shit what anyone thinks of me at 50.
But then maybe being gay also helps. Other woman seem a lot more tolerant of my ‘flaws’ than any man would be.