Hmm. It’s hard to know what to say.

Maybe ‘if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck… ‘. Because I agree there are SOME valid points of discussion to be had. You haven’t raised them. What you have done is repeat transphobic dog whistles.

Suppose your child came to you and proclaimed their belief they are not the gender you believed them to be. The logical extension of every point you’ve made is that every effort should be made to force your child to accept their biology. The logical conclusion of my every argument is that is unspeakably cruel and barbaric. And the difference between our viewpoints is yours is hypothetical and secondhand, mine is a lifetime lived.

That people like you won’t shut up and just listen is the problem. Not that ‘both sides should be heard’. I had 48 years of hearing your side before I ever clearly heard my own voice.

You’re just not qualified to speak about something that is so damned peripheral to you, but is life-threatening to those of us who are trans.

That’s not hyperbole.

You express ‘concern’ for our daughters transitioning. OK. Are you concerned for the trans kids who can’t access treatment. Or whose parents don’t accept what they say. Who reject their children.

And what about the trans girls? And those whose sense of themselves doesn’t align with male or female. My Non-binary siblings who are so often erased because you cis people can’t broaden your minds.

You’ve got so little to say. All of it I’ve heard a million times before.

I’m not angry that we differ. I’m angry cos you’re so under-informed and so wilfully lacking in empathy.

I will engage with you til the cows come home because its what I do. The things you’ve expressed are things that make this world a hostile place for people like me. Sometimes it’s that simple.

You’re debating an abstraction. I fight for my life and those of people I love.

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Poet. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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