It’s too easy for our transness to be dismissed any time we centre such sentiments is the problem though, Louise.

What a bra means to us, especially those of us who transition later in life, after decades of men’s clothes, is too easily dismissed as a fetish (because of society’s skewed and sexualised view of such garments) or as a frivolous attachment to fashion or stereotypes.

The simple validation of a heavily gendered garment or a bit of lace is too nuanced a concept for discussion with too many cis folks. Depressingly.



Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.