I’ve tried about fifteen times to compose a reply. Here goes #16.

You mean: ‘WTaF might it even possibly be like to have a life partner who takes it all on equally?!’

Not what would it be like it was the other person who did all the EXTRA shit that gets dumped on you (and it’s usually the woman as I noted). No, not that. Just what would it be like to have someone who just fucking does their share of the emotional work in a relationship…


Well what can I say… I hope you, like me, are finally beginning to see what shape that might actually take.

Safe, seems a fine place to start, right?

All the love.


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