Judy, thanks so much for sharing your perspective, it's really valuable. With so disproportionately much emphasis on trans women like myself, men like Mac, and indeed our lovely non-binary siblings, are way too frequently over-looked. Not to mention valuable allies and partners like yourself.

Kudos to you for the longevity of a relationship that sounds like a love story for the ages.

I'm very grateful for your response. I've often suggested that a small part of the reason trans men face a little less scrutiny is that passing is just that little easier. Early in transition, of course, wearing more masculine clothing is something any woman can get away with. But the minute a man dons a skirt it's red alert. Added to which facial hair and/or some male pattern baldness go a very long way in signalling one's gender. Whereas I can't seem to escape accusations that my bra is passed with something other than my actual breasts.

That's not to say I'm envious of you and Mac, Judy. On the contrary, it's so reassuring to hear that you're both aware of your privilege in being somewhat straight passing but that you choose to forego that to stand up and be counted in support of those of us who maybe aren't so fortunate.

Thank you so very much.

And if you're ever in the UK, near Liverpool, I'll hold you to that dance. You and Mac both.

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.