No. Of course you can’t lay waste to individuals’ specific circumstances in one article. You need a generalisation to even approach that.

‘the usual cheating situation’. Sigh. Would you be happy me calling you ‘typical’ in any regard?! I think not.

Behind every single cheater I know is a thoughtful human being.

Hell, I don’t even object to the generalisation essentially. What I object to is you condescending and judging a minority of perfectly flawed humans who are already unfairly marked by wider society.

You recuse yourself from comment on my specifics? Why? Do you fear the lesbian or trans ‘backlash’ I might bring? Or do you perhaps rightfully feel unqualified?

Maybe you even have a sense of the inherent immorality of punching down.

And that’s my central issue with all your fucking condescension. Throughout all your pithy articles.

You’re a self-avowed former cheater. Part of the community, so to speak, technically. Yet you align yourself with the hateful majority interests of shallow judgement.

Please look up ‘hypocrisy’ and shut the fuck up.


Speak truth to power. Don’t preach to us marginalised and judged folks amongst whose number you once counted yourself.

Tell the fucks who made you feel bad for making the choices you felt were right at the time.

Tell the society, whose values you still espouse so gleefully to your former fellows ‘sinners’ to walk west til their hats float.

Tell them that their own value systems demand they judge not.

Tell them that there are other ways.

Start using your platform the right way.

Then maybe. Just maybe. I’ll drop the snark.

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Poet. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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