Oh dear. ‘waa, we’re the REAL victims here’. Such is the zeitgeist. As opposed to the spirit of the times of the rest of human history, which has been open season (with no closed season) on women.

I am trans woman. So I know your world, though I never belonged in it. So let me deconstruct your silly diatribe.

1 - ‘lack of respect is substantially independent of gender.’

Men’s perpetration of disrespect might not distinguish between the genders. But they are far and away the majority offenders. Women can and frequently are disrespectful, yes. But they have more cause to feel aggrieved, as we shall see.

2 - ‘because women often change their minds’

Oh dear lord. What an immediate disqualifier this was!

‘hey us guys SOMETIMES get mixed messages, so of course we turn into pushy assholes’

Just. No.

Piss off after the first rebuttal. If she changes her mind she can patch it up. Not wait for you to break down the walls on the seventh time of asking her for a coffee date.

3 - ‘most men don’t care if you are married, engaged, or otherwise partnered’

This is true, yes. But what is also true is what the author of the article asserts, that a man is MORE LIKELY to respect another man’s ‘property’ before even considering her wishes.

A man who does care about the things you suggest has already discounted the woman’s wishes long before.

4 - ‘they say "don’t look at me" because they don’t commit bad acts. and in doing so are fully justified.’

And yet here you are, loudly proclaiming how wrong this woman is. Sigh. Talk about self-defeating.

5 - ‘there is nothing to be gained’ (in men calling out bad behaviour)

I take it the word ‘principle’ means nothing to you.

6 - ‘like the delusion you have that this article is reflective of reality.’

And yet again you paradoxically prove the author’s point by being an asshole to a woman. So her point stands. You’re certainly not a nice guy, so are maybe not best qualified for this argument.

7 - ‘for the same reason that women feel the need to abuse men’

Categorically wrong. Simple as. Women are often retaliating or acting from a position of lesser power. Men are often abusive because of that power imbalance and to reinforce it.

While some women are genuinely abusive, it seldom takes much to find a reason why. And yes, some men have trauma that might explain abusiveness. Nor am I condoning abuse by either. But women are disproportionately victims in our societies. And if you don’t believe that then I’ll return to your own words highlighted in point #6.

8 - (yes we’re in fresh territory since you sought to bookend your nonsense) ‘are there men who act towards women without conscience? of course. are there others who tolerate truly execrable behavior in their friends? no doubt’

Yet you spend considerable time and effort explaining such away. For shame.

9 - ‘but this nonsensical rant overgeneralizes about men’

‘overgeneralize’. A nonsensical tautology in a sentence about nonsense

Smfh.

10 - ‘singles out men for conduct familiar to women,’

Familiar, yes.

Near ubiquitous, no.

11 - ‘broadly does nothing to advance our understanding.’

That you gained nothing perhaps says more about your closed-mindedness that about the author’s qualitative points.

12 - ‘mindy, you do indeed write fiction.’

And end in an insult. Sigh. I’ll refrain from matching you in that.

You also can't manage the respect of getting a five letter name correct. It's really not funny, Shamie.

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Poet. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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