OK… So, admittedly, being a trans woman means I can’t share in the wonders of bearing a child and feeding and nurturing that young life, but then plenty of cis women cannot have children. It makes us no less women.

But omg the rest of your piece… So much of this became IMMEDIATELY apparent when I transitioned. My male privilege was left behind as I started living full time as a woman and the differences are indeed stark. The pressure on appearance alone… Men don’t care much about their appearance. Their dress code is ‘that’ll do’. Whereas we agonise over what we should wear because of the ridiculous and hateful misogyny of our societies.

BUT… I will say this in defence of men… They are brought up in a very restricting way, robbing them of much of their ability to express their feelings as anything other than anger. That inability, the way we teach young men to bottle up their feelings, is why men kill themselves three times as often as us women.

For all our sakes, women and men, patriarchy has to go!!

Thanks for the piece.

Much love, many hugs


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