So I read your piece with great interest.

You mention labels and like many you struggle with them. For me they’re shorthand. Descriptive not proscriptive.

I could say I’m a woman who’s attracted to women, despite my having been assigned male at birth but I don’t feel sexual attraction unless I have an emotional connection with the person.

Or I could say I’m a trans lesbian demisexual.

Shorthand. But as I said not proscriptive. I reserve the right to believe that in 7 billion people there are likely a bunch of men who could rock my world. But… I’m not looking for that especially hard. I’m primarily attracted to women and that’s fine. So still lesbian. Likewise the way I socialise really precludes me having sex with someone before I know them pretty well anyway. So still demi. And trans… Well I don’t have much choice in that.

But I don’t let the labels define me. I define the labels. And they give people a quick few insights into me. If they judge me adversely by those, meh, that’s their loss.

I hope you find that someone, regardless of their gender, regardless of how that causes you to re-examine the labels you wear.

Much love, many hugs

Abbie

xxx

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.