Thanks for your kind words. But I don’t feel very proud. I didn’t choose to be trans, it’s not a lifestyle. Likewise when society is this bigoted against trans people I can’t even take pride in the courage of standing up and being counted. The way I see it there’s simply no other option. Not for be, being the woman I am. I refuse to say nothing while my brothers, sisters, and Non-binary siblings are attacked minute by minute.

Nor can I console myself with this being ‘your society’. That we live in a transphobic, cissexist atmosphere in the Liberal democratic West is true. But that acknowledgement doesn’t come with the luxury of being able to opt out of it.

‘It’s us not you.’ I don’t doubt you want to be a good ally. But maybe don’t start with thinking us trans folx are segregated. We have a vested interest in helping society, helping cis folk, get it right when it comes to treating our pitifully understood minority with equal dignity and respect.

Warm regards, sister.


Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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