That is truly awful. I’m so sorry to hear of it. Not surprised, of course, but certainly sorry.

It’s an issue for us trans women too. I’ve attracted unwelcome advances (how?! I’m no oil painting!) and it creeps me out every time. Granted the attention doesn’t make me dysphoric as it does with yourself. Because, hateful and misogynist as they’re being, at least they’re gendering me correctly. But for me it’s always accompanied by the overarching fear of what a man would do if he discovered I wasn’t a cis woman.

It just goes to show that any fleeting dalliance with womanhood is enough to make one a target. Whether one comes to femininity late in life, as I did, or even if one rejects being assigned female at birth we still attract the unwanted attention of men.


Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.