This is beautiful and I am so proud and grateful to your for having helped pave the way for women such as myself.

Can I ask one final indulgence though? One final step of recognition in what has already clearly being an emotional journey of discovery…

Would you, as a sister, edit this work to make transwoman two words, not one. Transphobes use ‘transwoman’ as shorthand for ‘nor a real woman’. ‘trans woman’ on the other hand acknowledges that I, and women like me, are women and trans is just one adjective that can be applied.

For me I’m a tall woman, a proud woman, an intelligent and funny woman, a shy woman, an insecure woman, a hairy woman, a caring woman. I’m all these things and yes Trans and more. But I’m still a woman.

And yes I had to fight for my life for my femininity. And yes I stood on the backs of strong, forthright, beautiful, powerful women like you.

So help me stop the othering. Please.

Yours in sorority.


PS. I write this one night after my a recent girlfriend deadnamed me and deployed every transphobic slight in the book to diminish my womanhood.

I remain, unbowed.

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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