This is beautiful and I am so proud and grateful to your for having helped pave the way for women such as myself.

Can I ask one final indulgence though? One final step of recognition in what has already clearly being an emotional journey of discovery…

Would you, as a sister, edit this work to make transwoman two words, not one. Transphobes use ‘transwoman’ as shorthand for ‘nor a real woman’. ‘trans woman’ on the other hand acknowledges that I, and women like me, are women and trans is just one adjective that can be applied.

For me I’m a tall woman, a proud woman, an intelligent and funny woman, a shy woman, an insecure woman, a hairy woman, a caring woman. I’m all these things and yes Trans and more. But I’m still a woman.

And yes I had to fight for my life for my femininity. And yes I stood on the backs of strong, forthright, beautiful, powerful women like you.

So help me stop the othering. Please.

Yours in sorority.

Abbie.

PS. I write this one night after my a recent girlfriend deadnamed me and deployed every transphobic slight in the book to diminish my womanhood.

I remain, unbowed.

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.