This is beautiful and I am so proud and grateful to your for having helped pave the way for women such as myself.
Can I ask one final indulgence though? One final step of recognition in what has already clearly being an emotional journey of discovery…
Would you, as a sister, edit this work to make transwoman two words, not one. Transphobes use ‘transwoman’ as shorthand for ‘nor a real woman’. ‘trans woman’ on the other hand acknowledges that I, and women like me, are women and trans is just one adjective that can be applied.
For me I’m a tall woman, a proud woman, an intelligent and funny woman, a shy woman, an insecure woman, a hairy woman, a caring woman. I’m all these things and yes Trans and more. But I’m still a woman.
And yes I had to fight for my life for my femininity. And yes I stood on the backs of strong, forthright, beautiful, powerful women like you.
So help me stop the othering. Please.
Yours in sorority.
PS. I write this one night after my a recent girlfriend deadnamed me and deployed every transphobic slight in the book to diminish my womanhood.
I remain, unbowed.