Was exactly my point.

I did live as a ‘man’ for 48 years. It was never natural. Never where I fit. But I had to learn a lot to get by.

Perhaps you’d like to argue with me about why men are three times as likely to kill themselves as women are. Or about how family courts are prejudicial when it comes to men’s access to their own children. Or about how men disproportionately do the most dangerous jobs.

But you think as a trans woman I’m disqualified from speaking to these and many other aspects of being a man?!

How very wrong you are. Men confide in me regularly because they get that I understand their position yet they still lean on me for emotional support like they do so many other women. Meanwhile my straight female friends hit me up wanting some insight into why their guy has acted a certain way or why he won’t engage in some other way.

And if you were to ask the men and women I’ve talked with to give an opinion they’d tell you that I’ve provided insight that either side has lacked through not having lived experience of the other gender.

A position which disqualifies your criticism of my perspective since you lack its breadth. With zero disrespect you’d not have levelled at me the accusations you have if you shared my experience of both binary genders.

Just sayin’

Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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