What are the chances….

You clearly will have more insight into my situation than most.

Being a carer is a huge thing in itself. Having a trans loved one, or indeed being trans, is similarly huge. And I can’t imagine there are a huge number of us who meet at that intersection. Nor who deal with their own needs with some good old pragmatism. Maybe like me you would contend that having a lover makes you better able to care for your hubby?

For me, the love of another, and someone who, crucially, didn’t know me as a man, filled a gap that my wife isn’t able to, through a combination of her disabilities and her not being into women.

I will be catching up on your previous work, Maddie. And looking forward to future pieces.

But I also hope we might chat more. That carer/transgender intersection I mentioned is vanishingly small. We might be able to help one another.

My email address is in my bio if you wanna take a chance on a random limey…


Warmest regards, hun


Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Poet. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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