Wow the GRIEF Cassie. Right there, in your words. It’s palpable.

And boy, do I ever sympathise. Try being a 49 year old trans woman who only came out at 47…

I yearn for a life not lived, only dreamt.

It’s hard, for sure. And of course you’re not alone. You’re right, it’s not a story we often share but it’s no less valid for that.

Still… Better late than never. We did, finally, come to terms with who we are and now we get to live the rest of our lives free of the burden of expectations that never fit us.

Be happy, sister.

Much love,


Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Witch. Poet. Slut. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.