You are, of course, very welcome.

I’m saddened to hear this issue has caused you to fret so. But it seems a clear reflection of the caring soul you are.

I wish you luck in cultivating an enriching relationship with the trans woman you know. Life is so much richer when we learn from others.

On which note I read your closing remarks about face with a degree of self-consciousness. As a white woman I know I still carry a lot of privilege. As a tran woman however I cannot avoid the intersectionality of different pressure points of being transgender and of race when so many of my trans sisters of colour are killed every year simply for having the audacity to exist.

Like you, I’m committed to doing better, being better for those our current systems fail at an alarming rate. Discrimination still dogs the human race sadly.

Still, keep the faith, Wanda. We’ll get there one day.

And if you want to ask anything more you know where to find me.

Warmest regards,


Capricious by name, steadfast by nature. Trans femme dyke. Smutsmith. Provocateur. Poet. Idiot. Kicking names and taking ass.

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